By Meg Urquhart ~ small girl with parkinson’s
I live in a noisy world and I love it.
I grew up in a household where there were six kids with ages spanning the small gap of only 7 years. There was constant noise and organized chaos. I remember specifically the evenings where my 3 older sisters and I would be getting ready to go out to a dance or some other activity that teenaged girls feel the need to dress up for. The hot water would be gone, we blew fuses from having 4 blow dryers plugged in as well as 4 curling irons. The air had an overwhelming smell; of hairspray and perfume; that was so strong you could practically see it. Then there was the compete blinding loudness created by the music coming from 4 separate ‘boom boxes’. Crazy, noisy and fun.
My childhood was filled with the beautiful noise of music; each one of us taking singing lessons and learning instruments…singing feels like breathing…it filled the air and the soul. My home was also filled with the sound of laughter; my favourite being my mother’s. I remember my brother and I sitting at the table, long after dinner was finished, being silly for the sole purpose of making my mother laugh!!
Then I grew up, got married and had 3 kids in 3 years; pretty much a lateral move on the noise issue; and it was wonderful. Babies crying; little voices calling me mommy…heaven. Now that they are all teenagers the sounds are very different, but I confess to still getting a thrill every time I hear them call me Mom. It’s a magical thing to be a parent; but MAN is it noisy!
I’ve discovered that I struggle now to be in the quiet. I can’t even sleep when it’s quiet; I have to have a movie playing or be listening to a radio program to quiet the constant chaos in my head and distract me from thinking too much. I choose movies that I’ve watched dozens of times so that I won’t be compelled to stay awake to see how it ends.
Unfortunately a different kind of noise entered my world a few years ago; a noise that no one but myself could hear.
One of the ‘joys’ of PD is the effect it has on a person’s digestive system. Just as the disease slows muscles you CAN see, it also slows muscles that you CAN’T see. The digestive symptoms of PD are primarily a result of slowing of the movement of the gut – “peristalsis” is the fancy word. Peristalsis is a series of wave-like muscle contractions that moves food to different processing stations in the digestive tract. The process of peristalsis begins in the esophagus as soon as food is swallowed. It is a much used word in my vocabulary, probably because it’s something that I don’t have anymore.
About 4 years ago my stomach started crying…not a sound that anyone else could hear; it was a sound that could only be heard in my mind and it spoke of great pain, of nausea and exhaustion. Imbedded within it’s tears was a story of great sadness and loss; frustration and sorrow for having failed me. I didn’t realize at the time that my stomach was undergoing the process of becoming paralyzed; it too had been attack by the dreaded dragon Parkinson’s and was losing it’s ability to move and it’s sense of self. I felt it’s sorrow and shared it’s tears. As the searing pain and nausea took over I stopped feeding it as much and both of us suffered. This kind of paralysis is called Gastroparisis.
Gastroparesis (GP) is what the name sounds like; “gastro” refers to one’s stomach and the digestive tract, “paresis” refers to the state of being paralyzed; it is easy to see by breaking this word down how it may greatly impact an individual. In myself, and others with this diagnoses, we experience a sensation that our stomachs are motionless, stagnant, unresponsive. Where as in typical stomachs the muscles are able to push food along, moving the food to the small intestine and onward digesting food in approximately 2 hours; in a stomach with GP the food has trouble moving, and can sit in their stomach for as long as 72 hours, sometimes more. This is not exactly a comfortable experience. It can lead to nutritional deficiencies, nausea and vomiting, and unstable blood sugars.
I was discovering that, within me, the noise created by a typical stomach had ceased to be, and the internal sobbing was growing louder and louder. Shorty after; having spent much time in the hospital being treated for severe malnutrition; I had my very first G-J tube inserted. The G portion of the tube went to my stomach (it is used to aspirate stomach acids) and the J portion of the tube went to the second part of my small intestines (the jejunum); and so, since my intestines were still experiencing peristalsis it was through that tube that I was given the formula I needed to survive.
It wasn’t long after this that another noise came into my world; a new ‘voice’ in my mind; only this one wasn’t crying or explaining, this ‘voice’ was one of constant, tormented screaming; hours upon hours of screaming and pain…it was my intestines. The paralysis had carried on and as peristalsis in the intestines slowed, so did the ability to feed myself through the tube to my intestines. I recall days of only receiving 50 calories of formula because it was all my body would tolerate. I remember feeling the life draining out of me as I went to sleep each night. I soon learned that I had begun the journey of complete Digestive Track Paralysis (DTP).
This is when I had to make a (huge and scary) leap of faith…a central line was inserted into my jugular which ends right beside my heart; I now receive all of the nutrients needed for survival via IV. It has been a miracle; yet the crying and screaming continued.
Over the past few years the noise inside of me has continued to change. The gurgling hunger pains went silent as the sound of tears and screaming increased; I didn’t like that noise or the pain but, in an odd way, I grew accustomed to it and was, in a sense, reassured by it. Then something happened; something terrible, frightened and something I thought to be unimaginable; the voices started to fade…quieter and quieter…until it reached the point where there was barely any sound. I remember clearly the first morning I woke up to complete silence. As a person who is used to a life of constant noise I felt lost, empty and lonely. Most people would be thrilled to lose the ‘voice’ of constant pain; I felt betrayed and abandoned. I couldn’t help but look at my abdomen and cry “why did you leave me?! I tried so hard to help you!” It felt like the death of two friends; two friends who had spent years fighting for my existence and now, they were gone.
This created more problems than just silence; the complete shutdown of peristalsis caused my J tube; which was only being used for the purpose of giving me the, all important, medication to treat the symptoms of my PD, Levodopa; refused to remain in my intestines. It started to, sometimes a few times a week, float up into my stomach where it was not only useless for medication, it wreaked havoc! You’ve never lived until you’re being gagged from the inside by a J-tube stuck in your esophagus. Each time it happened it was an emergency as Levodopa (Sinemet) is only formulated to go through the digestive system; so no IV version; and you can’t go off of Levodopa cold turkey and not suffer dearly, sometimes with loss of life. So, each time, we would rush to the emergency room and they would, as quickly as possible, get things arranged for the, increasingly difficult, procedure necessary to put the tube back where is belonged. It got to a point where the risk of perforation of my intestines grew more severe each time they did; not to mention the trauma my body experienced and the problems with my PD that would result. We needed a new plan…
…(Pharmacist Amy enters stage right)…
Amy has been my pharmacist for about 10 years now and she knows my health better than anyone but myself. When things got to this point Amy had had enough of watching me suffer and she made it her mission to ‘fix it’. A few months ago Amy, with the assistance of a compound company, created Sinemet suppositories. For all of you out there with PD and digestive problems, no, I’m not joking; we have found a way to administer Levodopa while bypassing almost all of the digestive system. I have waited on announcing this life saving discovery until, after testing it for a few months, I could say with full certainty…IT WORKS!!! Some of you will understand what a miracle this is for me. I have been fighting so long and so hard and this discovery has brought some peace to my heart.
About 5 weeks ago, when my J tube had once again slipped into my stomach; when the noises had ceased, both tears and screaming silenced; they pulled my J tube out for the final time. Afterward as I held the tube in my hands I silently called ‘time of death’ for my dear friends; those inside of me who had worked so hard for so long on my behalf; who bravely faced the Dragon daily and did all they could to succeed but ultimately made the ultimate sacrifice.
Today, their loss is felt. As many positives as have come out of pulling my tube, it also has had serious negatives; the problems are different but just as extreme and sometimes more frightening because I’m doing it without my ‘team’; without my digestive system; and it’s lonely facing the unknown without their familiar presence. As the saying goes ‘the silence is deafening’.
It may seem crazy to some of you but; since I’m crazy no one should be shocked; I suppose in some ways I’m writing this post as a tribute; a thank you; in recognition of my stomach and intestines; my Pain and my Panic.
In honour of…
Things once taken for granted;
The noises expected,
And the noises gone silent.
I listen for you constantly within ‘the sound of silence’.
God bless Pharmacist Amy. She saved my life.
Much Love Always ~ Meg
20 thoughts on “The Sound of Silence ~ with an exciting pd breakthrough mixed into it”
Hi Meg. As always, im stunned by your ability to bring the poetic out of the clutter! I realize more and more with time, this “thing” going on between mind-over-matter. Its a tug of war! Each one has something to say, always pulling for some sort of balance..looking for a place to exist. Thank you again for sharing your journey. Much Blessings. Et
Thank you Etienne! Sharing my journey is so cathartic for me; it’s nice to know that it helps others as well. Thank you for seeing the method to my madness (and not just madness:) I pray that one day we find that balance.
Much Love ~ Meg
Thank you Meg!
While I’ve know that you were having many medical issues, I’m not sure I fully understood what you were experiencing until now. Although I have PD, Dystonia, and other health issues, I’ve tried to have a positive attitude and show my appreciation for my life by helping other others through volunteering and being a mentor and an advocate. You have now set the bar for me even higher. Bless you my friend!
Thank you Dan! It gives me experiences purpose and meaning when sharing them can inspire others. I appreciate your comments. Thank you for lifting others as you continue on your journey.
May God give you His peace and comfort He is always there for you..
thank you for sharing Meg, one question , how do you get your calories now? So amazing you and Amy discovered a major breakthrough with the suppository..Stay strong !
I am fed TPN through my central line which goes directly to my heart. It contains all the nutrients and fluids that I need in order to survive. My blood is taken every 2 weeks so that the formula can be created to fit my body’s exact needs.
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Thanks Meg, for sharing so vividly and with relative terms, your own battles. Most times we are guilty of tsking things for granted unyil thise’privileges’ are taken without your consent. From my own experiences, I’ve realised that living isn’t for the indifferent or feeble minded. I’m glad you’ve found your purpose and am rooting for you silently. Even if we go down, let’s go down fighting because we’re never giving up to some faceless disease….but with peace in our hearts. Lots of love, Ryan (redzhis.com)
They say that the true warrior isn’t immune to fear; she fights in spite of it. Like you, I will not ‘go gentle into that good night’. When I leave this world I will do so with the peace of knowing that I have done all that I can do to live the best I could!
Blessings my friend.
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PD, The Dragon!
Such courage you have and gently hold up daily! I applaud you, bodacious lady!
Thank you Lisa!
Dear Megan: We don’t know each other but somehow I came across your post and I felt so sad, yet also rather joyful and inspired. What a struggle and yet what an example for all of us. I just want to wish you the best. A fellow Parkie. Casey Huisman. http://www.parkinsonsomy.com
Thank you Casey. Sending you Hugs.
Did you sing at the WPC2016 with the WPC Choir. If so, I was there too. I was a bass in the back row. Such a great experience.
Yes!! Front row middle!!
I thought I had briefly met you there. It was great to meet so many online friends in person. I hope we have the opportunity to meet again.
Oh, Meg (I imagine I’ll be inspired to start many of my sentences/comments this way–for you invoke such gratitude and admiration)…now, it is you who brings tears to my eyes (and has them slipping down my face). I am so very moved by the silence you have, and are, enduring. I am in awe of the lyrical beauty of your writing; and the beauty of your soul. You are the bravest person I know, and I am so honored by our connection. You are a never-ending light. Love, Truly ❤
Thank you my friend. I’m touched by your words and am so glad to know you.
Prayers and hugs ~ Meg
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